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30
May

Mantra: Run your Own Race….

Such a beautiful message …worth reading!

I was jogging this morning and I noticed a person about half a km ahead. 

I could guess he was running a little slower than me and that made me feel good, I said to myself I will try catch up with him.

So I started running faster and faster. Every block, I was gaining on him a little bit. 

After just a few minutes I was only about 100 feet behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself. I was determined to catch up with him.

Finally, I did it! I caught up and passed him. Inwardly I felt very good. “I beat him”. 

Of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. 

After I passed him, I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that …..

I had missed my turn to my house,

I had missed the focus on my inner peace,

I missed to see the beauty of greenery around, 

I missed to do my inner soul searching meditation, 

and 

in the needless hurry stumbled and slipped twice or thrice and might have hit the sidewalk and broken a limb.

It then dawned on me, isn’t that what happens in life when we focus on competing with 

co-workers, neighbors, 

friends,  family, trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important and in the bargain 

we miss on our happiness within our own surroundings?

We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths to our given destination. 

The problem with unhealthy competition is that it’s a never-ending cycle.

There will always be somebody ahead of you, 

someone with a better job, 

nicer car, 

more money in the bank, 

more education,

Understanding spouse,

better behaved children, 

better circumstances and 

better conditions etc.

 But one important realisation is that 

You can be the best that you can be, when you are not competing with anyone.

Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to 

what others are, 

where others are going, 

wearing and driving, what others are talking.  

Take whatever you have, 

the height, the weight and personality.  

Accept it and realize, that you are blessed. Stay focused and live a healthy life. 

*There is no competition in Destiny. Each has his own.*

Comparison AND Competition  is the thief of JOY. 

It kills the Joy of Living your Own Life.

Run your own Race that leads to Peaceful, Happy Steady Life.

28
May

Life Mantra: Accept Each Others Faults & Celebrate Relationships

Ex. President Of India Dr. Abdul Kalam Says: “When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us. One night she had made dinner after a long hard day’s work, Mom placed a plate of ‘subzi’ and extremely burnt roti in front of my Dad.

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how was my day at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burnt roti.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said: “Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides… A burnt roti never hurts anyone but HARSH WORDS DO!”

“You know son – life is full of imperfect things… & imperfect people…” I’M NOT THE BEST & I HAVE LEARNT TO ACCEPT THAT LIFE IS NOT PERFECT AND NOR ARE PEOPLE NEAR & DEAR TO YOU.

What I’ve learnt over the years is: To Accept Each Others Faults & Choose To Celebrate Relationships”.

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23
May

Life Mantra: The Camel & the Baby

One day, a camel and her baby were chatting.
The baby asked, “Mother, why do we have humps?” The mother replied, “Our humps are for storing water so that we can survive in the desert”.
“Oh”, said the child, “and why do we have rounded feet mother?” “Because they are meant to help us walk comfortably in the desert. These legs help us move around in the sand.”
“Alright. But why are our eyelashes so long?” “To protect our eyes from the desert dust and sand. They are the protective covers for the eyes”, replied the mother camel.
The baby camel thought for a while and said, “So we have humps to store water for desert journeys, rounded hooves to keep us comfortable when we walk in the desert sand, and long eyelashes to protect us from sand and dust during a desert storm. Then what are we doing in a zoo?”
The mother was dumbfounded.
Moral
Your strengths, skills, and knowledge are useless if you are not in the right place.
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10
Apr

Die empty

One of the most beautiful article based on the book called “Die Empty” by Todd Henry.

The author was inspired and got this idea of writing this book while attending a business meeting.

When the director asked the audience: “Where is the richest land in the world?”

One of the audience answered: “Oil-rich Gulf states.”

Another added: “Diamond mines in Africa.”

Then the director said: “No it is the cemetery. Yes, it is the richest land in the world, because millions of people have departed from it, “they have died” and they carry many valuable ideas that did not come out of the light and benefited others. It is all in the cemetery where they were buried.”

Inspired by this answer, Todd Henry wrote his wonderful book “Die empty.” Where he did his best to motivate people to pour out their ideas and potential energies in their communities and turn them into something useful before it is too late.

The most beautiful of what he said in his book is that: “Do not go to your grave and you carry inside you the best that you have, always choose to die empty.”

Die empty is a new expression and unique on its on way, at first glance you will think it is normal.

But I was surprised to know the true meaning of this new expression.

It is to die empty of all the goodness that is within you. Deliver it before you leave this world.

If you have an idea perform it.

If you have a knowledge give it out.

If you have a goal achieve it.

Love, share and distribute, do not keep it inside.

Do not keep the goodness inside of you, and die full of ideas and be a delicious meal for the earthworms in the grave.

Most of us live with the stubborn idea that we will always have tomorrow. But sooner or later all of our tomorrows will run out.

Now I understand the meaning of the words of all the Holy Books “If the Final Hour comes upon one of you while he has in his hand a sapling then let him plant it.”

How can we plant a plant when we have reached out last day?

Yes, die empty. To live every day like it is the last day. To give the maximum energy to all that we have, and when we work on something we do it the best way. When we create something it should be spectacular.

We should be inspiring, happy, optimistic, and always seek to be empty until our souls rise up to the sky.

Are you empty?

I think we all weigh thousands of tons of goodness, creativity, love and hope that we can give.

We have not given all of it, except a little.

How I wish that we start the race to give and remove every atom of goodness inside us. We should learn how to find and sustain our passion and generosity, even in tough times.

Have a pleasant day and a GREAT week ahead…

Take care…..

Start the race..

 

26
Oct

New Ideas

Microwave ovens have become an essential part of our homes. Did you ever wonder how this easy and quick way of cooking started?

The microwave oven did not come about as a result of someone trying to find a better, faster way to cook. During World War II, Dr. Spencer noticed something very unusual. He was testing a new vacuum tube called a magnetron when he discovered that the candy bar in his pocket had melted.

This intrigued Dr. Spencer, so he tried another experiment. This time he placed some popcorn kernels near the tube and standing a little farther away, he watched the popcorn sputter, crack and pop all over his lab.

The next morning, Dr. Spencer decided to put the magnetron tube near an egg. He was joined by a curious colleague, and they both watched as the egg began to tremor and quake. The curious colleague moved in for a closer look just as the egg exploded and splattered hot yolk all over his amazed face. The melted candy bar, the popcorn, and now the exploding egg….If an egg can be cooked that quickly, why not other foods? Experimentation began…

Initial reactions were unfavorable. Not surprisingly, many were highly reluctant about these first units, and so they found only limited acceptance…..but not for long. Further improvements and refinements produced a more reliable, lightweight and less expensive Microwave ovens. By 1975 sales of Microwave ovens exceeded that of Gas Ranges in US.

Moral: It is not necessary that someone always has to go the extra mile in search of new ideas. Ideas can “happen” as a by-product of something else. But what you choose to do with them may lead you to change many lives!!!

The value of an idea lies in the USING of it !!

31
Aug

Time Quadrant

“The challenge is not to manage time, but to manage ourselves.” -Stephen Covey

All activities can be categorized based on two factors: Urgent and important. Take a look at this time management matrix:

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We react to urgent matters. We spend our time doing things that are not important. That means that we neglect Quadrant II, which is the actually most crucial of them all.

If we focus on Quadrant I and spend our time managing crises and problems, it keeps getting bigger and bigger until it consumes us. These leads to stress, burnout, and constantly putting out fires.

If we focus on Quadrant III, we spend most of our time reacting to matters that seem urgent, when the reality is their perceived urgency is based on the priorities and expectations of others. This leads to short-term focus, feeling out of control, and shallow or broken relationships.

If we focus on Quadrant IV, we are basically leading an irresponsible life. This often leads to getting fired from jobs and being highly dependent on others.

Quadrant II is at the heart of effective personal management. It deals with things like building relationships, long-term planning, exercising, preparation — all things we know we need to do but somehow seldom get around to actually doing, because they don’t feel urgent.

In order to focus our time in Quadrant II, we have to learn how to say “no” to other activities, sometimes ones that seem urgent. We also need to be able to delegate effectively

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” -Stephen Covey

Plus, when we focus on Quadrant II, it means we’re thinking ahead, working on the roots, and preventing crises from happening in the first place! This helps us implement the Pareto Principle — 80% of your results come from 20% of your time.

We should always maintain a primary focus on relationships and results, and a secondary focus on time.

 

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24
Aug

No Excuse

One day a new employee went to the HR and said … I’m not interested in coming to the office anymore.”

The HR responded, “But why?”

Boy: There are people who do a lot of politics and talk all negative all the time. Few do gossips all the time.

The HR replied “OK, but before you go, can you do one last thing sincerely: take a full glass of water and walk three times around the office area without spilling a drop on the floor. “Afterwards, leave the Office if you wish for.”

The boy thought: It’s a matter of minutes for him. And he walked three times around the office floor. Then he reached HR saying that he is done with it.

And the HR asked “When you were walking around the Office floor did you see any employee speaking badly about another Employee? Any Gossips? Any disturbances?

The Employee replied “No.”

HR: “Did you see any Employee looking at other employees in wrong way?”

Boy said “No”

HR: “You know why?”

Boy said “No”

HR: “You were focused on the glass, to make sure you didn’t tip it and spill any water. You took the responsibility and you were focused only on that.  The same goes with our life, personal/ professional. When our focus is on our priorities, we don’t have time to see the mistakes of others/ or get disappointed with their remarks.”

 

Moral: Concentrate on your priorities and not on other’s Mistakes. The moment you take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life, is the moment you can change ANYTHNG in your life.

27
Jul

Ubuntu: “I am because we are”.

Ubuntu: “I am because we are”. 

“One day, a western anthropologist went to Africa to study the social behavior of an indigenous tribe. He proposed a game to the children and they willingly agreed to be part of it. He put a basket filled with fruits underneath a tree and told the children that whoever would reach the basket first would win the whole basket and could eat the fruits all by him- or herself.

He lined them all up and raised his hand to give the start signal. Ready. Set. Go!

The children took each other’s hands and started running together. They all reached the basket at the same time. Then they sat down in a big circle and enjoyed the fruits together, laughing and smiling all the time.

The anthropologist could not believe what he saw and he asked them why they had waited for each other as one could have taken the whole basket all for him- or herself.

The children shook their heads and replied, “Ubuntu, how can one of us be happy if all the others are sad?”

“One of the sayings in our country is Ubuntu – the essence of being human. Ubuntu speaks particularly about the fact that you can’t exist as a human being in isolation. It speaks about our interconnectedness. You can’t be human all by yourself, and when you have this quality – Ubuntu- you are known for your generosity. We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole World.

A person with ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed.”

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20
Jun

Difference Between What You Call an Experience and What You Call A Mistake

It’s never easy to admit you’ve made a mistake, but it’s a crucial step in learning, growing, and improving yourself.

You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As soon as you start blaming other people (or the universe itself), you distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards understanding. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know progress accelerates when they do.

Many times there really is no difference between an experience and a mistake; it’s simply all about how you look at it.

Experiences help you grow; mistakes hold you back.

Experiences leave lessons; mistakes leave regrets.

Experiences make you smarter; mistakes make you question.

Experiences show you the way; mistakes lead you into the dark.

Experiences are necessary; mistakes are inescapable.

Experiences are great for stories; mistakes are for nights you can’t sleep.

Experiences build you up; mistakes tear you down.

Experiences are welcomed; mistakes are uninvited.

Experiences give you character; mistakes make you a character.

Experiences lead to new opportunities; mistakes take them away.

Experiences define you; mistakes bother you.

Experiences are praised; mistakes are pardoned.

Experiences hurt; mistakes hurt more.

Experiences create; mistakes destroy.

Experiences fill you up; mistakes empty you.

Experiences add value; mistakes add weight.

Experiences are for the great; mistakes are for the weak.

Experiences drive creativity; mistakes drive insanity.

Experiences last forever; mistakes last a minute.

Experiences create leaders; mistakes create lamenters.

Experiences drive creativity; mistakes drive madness.

Experience leads to new beginnings; mistakes feel like the end.

Experiences inspire creativity; mistakes create chaos.

Experiences are praised; mistakes are regretted.

Experiences mold you; mistakes burn you.

Experiences shower you; mistakes drown you.

Experiences are collected; mistakes are rejected.

 

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20
Jun

Teamwork

I love this story of teamwork I heard the other day. I think you will agree it is powerful.

A team of about 35 employees had come together for a team building event. They were a young, bright and enthusiastic team. All pass-outs from tire 1 management colleges.

However, one big problem this team had was they wouldn’t share information or solutions with each other. The leader felt they were too focused on self and not enough on team.

So she started off with a fun team activity that would allow her to teach the importance of each team member working together and sharing more.

She brought the team into the cafeteria. All of the tables and chairs had been stacked and put away. Placed around the room were fun decorations and hundreds of different colored balloons.

Everyone was excited, but not sure what it was all about. In the center of the room was a big box of balloons that had not been blown up yet.

The team leader asked each person to pick a balloon, blow it up and write their name on it. But they were instructed to be careful because the balloon could pop!

A few balloons did indeed pop and those members of the team were given another chance but were told that if the balloon popped again they were out of the game.

About 30 team members were able to get their name on a balloon without it popping. Those 30 were asked to leave their balloons and exit the room. They were told they had qualified for the second round.

Five minutes later the leader brought the team back into the room and announced that their next challenge was to find the balloon they had left behind with their name on it among the thousands of other balloons scattered in the large cafeteria. She warned them, however, to be very careful and not to pop any of the balloons. If they did, they would be disqualified.

While being very careful, but also trying to go as quickly as they could, each team member looked for the balloon with their name. After 10 minutes not one single person was able to find their balloon. The team was told that the second round of the game was over and they were moving onto the third round.

In this next round, the leader told the team members to find any balloon in the room with a name on it and give it to the person whose name was on it. Within a couple of minutes, every member of the team had their balloon with their own name on it.

 

The team leader made the following point: “We are much more efficient when we are willing to share with each other. And we are better problem solvers when we are working together, not individually.”

Often times members of teams create obstacles that get in the way of teamwork by solely focusing on their own pursuits and goals. They hoard information, avoid collaboration and distance themselves. It is bad for the team and it is bad for that individual.

Every member of a team should ask themselves on a regular basis what they are doing for the team and can do for the team.

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Creative-Enthusiastic-Positive and People oriented HR Professional. My 10 years in HR as an assistant, then generalist, and now manager, have allowed me to grow and develop professionally and as a leader. Currently I am working as a Sr. Human Resource Consultant with few Start-ups. I am helping them Strategically in building best HR Practices. I have experience in below areas of Human Resource – Talent Acquisition (Recruitment & Selection), HR Policies & Procedures, Talent Management (HR Generalist), Performance Management System and Training & Development.
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